At the center of the new book is Thomas Ogden's impression that among his patients are people who, in fact - due to early difficult experiences - have avoided living their lives. Treatment that focuses on interpretation is of no use to them. Ogden renounces the concept of interpretation and develops a different form of work centered on a unique conversation with each of his patients - within the one-time relationship pattern that developed between them - in an effort to allow both to live an experience together (as Winnicott said), with the understanding that two people are needed to think (as Bion said). His affinity for the two thinkers is also expressed in what he calls his own reading or rewriting of key and difficult-to-decipher essays - "Fear of Collapse" by Winnicott and "Notes on Memory and Desire" by Bowen. Ogden distinguishes between three patterns of thinking: magical thinking, which expresses an omnipotent but futile effort to create an illusory reality (influenced by what Freud called the pleasure principle and Ogden suggests calling it the principle of fear of the truth); the dream thinking that enables the search for truth (in the spirit of Freud's principle of reality); And its most daring version - the transformative thinking, which fundamentally changes the perception of reality. The book includes powerful clinical examples, which illustrate Ogden's willingness to break free from accepted ("pre-packaged") therapeutic formulations in an attempt to touch the emotional aliveness and death in each therapeutic dyad, and search for the potential for mutual therapeutic love. Two chapters deal with the lives and works of writers who are close to the author's heart - Kafka and Borges. Thomas H. Ogden, born in 1946, is one of the most influential psychoanalysts of our generation. His professional works translated into Hebrew - the primitive edge of experience, about the inability to dream (in the psychoanalysis of a working people series), the bed of the soul and rediscovering psychoanalysis (published by Bookworm) - are taught in every therapeutic training course. The two novels he wrote - the details that were omitted and not my mother (also published by Am Oved) - aroused curiosity and interest. His attachment to the Israeli reader is expressed in the preface, which he wrote especially for the Hebrew version of the current book, as for the previous ones in the series.